Share Less, Do More
Over the weekend, I watched a short video on YouTube that discussed how sharing our goals with others actually works against us. The speaker highlighted studies that showed the excitement of sharing our goal and the positive feedback we received from those we tell tricks our brain into thinking we have already accomplished the goal.
Because your body chemically believes you’ve already accomplished your goal, you are less likely to actually achieve the goal in the future. Your excitement and attempt to create accountability might be working against you as you pursue your goals and authentic life.
Think about all of the claims on your social media feeds of WHAT someone is going to do—how many actually deliver upon their vision?
I can look back through my blogs, Twitter posts, and other social media and find multiple occasions of sharing my goals and visions with the world. I typically do this for accountability—if I share it, then I have to make it happen or at least explore the goal until I know it’s not right for me after all. I’ve done a lot of pivoting in my life, especially in the last 8 years, and I believe it has worked out as it was supposed to, but I can’t help but wonder if some of the pivots were a result of my tricking my brain into believing I had already accomplished my goal.
My friend and go-to when it comes to my spiritual journey, Derick Grant, shared with me that the final step in being able to actually manifest your life is not telling anyone—it’s keeping the details of your manifestation to your Self. That conversation has always stuck with me and I’ve made a conscious effort to keep more to my Self and a select few individuals I know can challenge me, hold me accountable, and help me achieve the goals and life I am pursuing.
The days of announcing that I’m building in public or sharing what I want to accomplish are dwindling.
They’re not gone, though.
I think (only because I cannot confirm) there is a balance between keeping your goals to your Self and just going to work on them and sharing them with some people to help with accountability, see blind spots, and share your goals and efforts with others when appropriate—we need our own cheering sections.
As you begin to get clear on your authentic life and how you are going to get there, consider sharing less and doing more to make sure you don’t trick your brain out of getting where you want to be.
See you tomorrow and keep pursuing,
JC
