Communication

The Pursuit of your authentic life is not just about you.

Yes, your authentic life is unique to YOU but it involves and impacts the lives of others, especially spouses, partners, significant others, and children. As you pursue your authentic life, assuming these important people in your life are a part of your authentic life, it is important to consider the possibility of growing apart from your spouse or partner.

A risk to your Pursuit is growing and evolving into a version of your Self that is not the same person your partner fell in love with. This risk is one that I have mixed feelings about and in the current moment don’t have an answer for, but I think it is worth addressing and I do have one recommendation that I will end with.

But first, the mixed feelings around the Pursuit of your authentic life pulling you away from your spouse or partner…

If you are pursuing your authentic life, wouldn’t that life include the individuals in your life—meaning, if your spouse or partner were supposed to be with the version of your Self living your authentic life, wouldn’t they be there no matter what?

Part of me says yes—if your authentic life is the one true life meant for you then the people meant to be in your life will be there and be there in the way they are supposed to be.

Part of me says I’m not sure—just because you are pursuing and living your authentic life does not mean your spouse or partner is pursuing theirs and as you evolve and elevate to a higher version of your Self, your partner may lag too far behind that their differences and misunderstandings develop impacting your relationship.

There are situations where your Pursuit requires you to leave your partner or spouse—they are holding you back from your authentic life and may be abusive, negative, or toxic. But, I think the majority of us are happy with the people in our lives and are excited about stepping into our authentic life alongside them—life should get better and relationships should strengthen when we are our best version of our Selves.

As I mentioned, I don’t know the answer to whether or not the Pursuit of your authentic life runs an increased risk of impacting relationships that don’t need to be severed. I do think it is a possibility, especially if the transformation you undergo on your Pursuit is substantial, but my personal experience has shown me that growth, evolution, and your authentic life do not have to pull you away from the people you love and care about the most—it can enhance those relationships.

Which brings me to my advice…

If you are concerned about your personal growth and living your authentic life impacting your relationships, increase your communication with those people. 

Share with them your “why”, what the authentic life you are pursuing looks like, how they are still a part of your life, and the growth you are pursuing at that moment. Allow them to understand your Pursuit is not about getting away from them but becoming a better version of your Self to be better for them. Help them understand why the changes in your life are so important and how you’ve planned them out and are not just acting on impulse.

Help them understand your authentic life.

Communication has always been cited as one of the most important parts of a relationship and it becomes ever more important as you step outside of the current version of your Self to evolve and elevate to your authentic Self. 

If those loved one truly are meant to be a part of your authentic life, increased communication is the best way to ensure they will join you on your Pursuit and not feel as if you are leaving them behind.

See you tomorrow and keep pursuing,

JC