feel the feelings
I’m thankful that my default setting is optimism and “positive” energy, but that doesn’t mean I don’t feel all of the emotions that human beings feel—both “good” and “bad”.
I put both good and bad in quotes because I’m beginning to believe that our emotions shouldn’t be defined as “good” or “bad” because, in some situations, a “bad” emotion leads to a positive outcome. For example, being frustrated over coming up short on a goal can turn into motivation to try a different approach at the “failed” attempt and discover a different path to achieving the goal.
The feeling of frustration, which I would categorize as a “bad” emotion, might be needed in order to take a different path and achieve a positive and successful outcome.
The same can be true of “good” emotions. For example, feeling too happy and proud about your current situation can become complacency and ultimately lead to discontentment and frustration as you stay exactly where you are as the world evolves.
The feelings of happiness and pride, which I would categorize as “good” emotions, might keep you from pursuing your authentic life and growing as the world evolves around you, ultimately leading to unhappiness.
It’s important that you recognize emotions as they arise.
It’s important that you feel those emotions and try to avoid immediately assigning meaning to them.
Feel them
Sit with them.
And then, try to understand why you are feeling them and what they are trying to tell you.
Too many of us immediately feel emotions, especially the “bad” ones, assign meaning to them, and allow them to become a new default setting. Once these emotions become our default setting, the law of attraction comes into play and begins to bring more “events” that will match the energy of how we’re feeling.
This law of attraction phenomenon is most dangerous when we are feeling the “bad” emotions, as it can lead to a downward spiral of feelings, thoughts, and beliefs.
What I have found to be the best “strategy” for preventing the compounding of “bad” emotions is self-awareness. As soon as I recognize that I am feeling emotions of lower frequency (aka “bad”), I reflect on what caused them, allow my Self to feel those emotions—I don’t deny them, and then find the silver lining in the event or shift my thoughts towards the abundance in my life.
I’ve always done this.
For as long as I can remember, I’ve always told my Self I that I can’t keep feeling down and thinking negatively because it will only attract more of it.
I remember thinking this as a kid, long before I started reading about quantum physics and listening to Bob Proctor, Dr. Joe Dispenza, and all the other folks who have helped me realize I was born with some very important information that not everyone has access to. Sidenote: This information IS in all of us, but that’s for another day.
If your default setting tends to be lower frequency or negative, I want to encourage you to work on developing awareness of emotions when they arise. For me, the easiest way to catch my Self is to watch/listen to my thoughts. Once I catch those taking the frequency elevator down, I start reflecting on what happened, why I’m feeling the emotions, and how I can stop the elevator and begin to send it back up.
This isn’t easy.
But it’s possible, as I’ve witnessed my wife over the years rewire her brain to stop the elevator’s move down and shift her default setting to a higher frequency than it used to be. She did this without any coaching, reading, or help beyond being around me—and I don’t claim any credit for her shift other than being an example of how to redirect emotions.
If this Note resonates with you—if you can see your Self as a victim of your emotions- here are a few things you can try to focus on, and even if you don’t struggle, these are still good things for all of us to do:
1.) Practice self-awareness. To stop the frequency elevator from continuing to move down, you must be aware of your feelings. Often, we just experience our emotions without noticing them. You can practice self-awareness throughout the day—any time you notice a shift in energy, emotion, or even how you physically feel in any direction, acknowledge it and reflect on why there was a change. You don’t even have to do anything more—just practice noticing that there has been a change.
2.) Don’t fight the emotions. Don’t suppress your feelings. This is not about not feeling sad, mad, frustrated, happy, joyful, etc. This is about recognizing what you are feeling and why you are feeling it and making adjustments, if needed, to reset your emotions.
3.) Try to elevate your default setting. If you can elevate your default setting to a higher frequency, then you give your Self more time to catch your emotions if the elevator has begun its descent. If your default is the 50th floor, then you have more time to catch your feelings than if your default is the 10th floor. The best book I can share on how you might do this and what the different levels look like is The Map Of Consciousness Explained by Dr. David Hawkins.
Getting caught in the downward spiral of emotions is easy, but it doesn’t have to be. You can feel all of the feelings without allowing them to bring you down and keep you from continuing to pursue your authentic life.
See you tomorrow and keep pursuing,
JC
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